Date: 8/24/2006

PLeaSeLisTeN!!!

When i ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done wat i asked. When i ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why i shouldn't feel that way, u are trampling on my feelings. When i ask you to listen to me you feel you have to do something to soLve my problem, you have failed me.. Strange as that may seem! Listen! All i ask is that you listen. Don't talk or do - just hear me Advice is cheap.. And i can do it for myself, i am not helpless. Yes Maybe discouraged and faltering.. But not helpless. When you do something for me that i can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy. But when u accept as a simple fact that i feeL what i feeL, no matter how irrationaL, then i can stop trying to convince you and get about this business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeLing. And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and i don't need advice. irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them. perhaps that's why prayer works.. Because Allah (god) is siLent, and HE doesn't give advice or try to fix things.. Allah just listens and lets you work it out for yourseLf. So0 pLEASE Listen, and just hear me . And if you want to talk wait a minute for your turn -- and i will LisTeN to you.


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